TAHNEE COLE
In a world, where young black men are often downplayed as thugs, irresponsible baby daddies, drug dealers etc. It is important to teach our children about the images that are not often on the news. The positive images. Black people are thriving and there are many positive representations of “black boy joy” and “the black […]
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Since my kids have been home with me more due to the pandemic, I have more time to teach them the values and skills that will be useful for them to thrive in life. Not just survive but to live abundantly. My parents taught me a lot and with each generation we are supposed to […]
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I recall a time I felt the entire pressure of being a working mom. I felt judged. I was already late to the parent meeting. I know they heard my heels clicking as fast as they could down the hall. I got myself together, clutched my purse and controlled my breathing. I found a seat […]
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It was nothing new to me. Being a working mom can be rough. I’m always making adjustments. When the babysitter couldn’t make it to watch Jr, I had to adjust. When Heaven had early days out of school or snow days, major adjustments. There was usually always some weekly or monthly inconvenience for me. Now […]
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“Girl they told me to go home and change my shirt. And I could possibly get written up for having to leave. I don’t get it, the other girls wear shirts just like this, but nobody says anything.” I was packing my lunch and trying to get Apollo settled as I listened to my friend […]
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I got up at 5:30 am. I took Apollo outside and then I had a craving for a frozen coffee at Dunkin. Oh, what I wouldn’t do for a frozen coffee. The memory of it made my mouth water. It soothed my tired soul and cheered me up. I felt like a prisoner to a […]
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If you have been following me for awhile, then you will know about my story in 2017. I got laid off in April, 2017. Yes, two kids, single and I was back hitting the ratchet streets of job search avenue. In the beginning, I felt scared. Scared to start over and start something new. Then […]
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Both of my parents worked at the Cleveland Public Library. That is how they met and after marriage a legend was born, (ME) LOL. My dad went on to work there and retire. So, I grew up extremely involved in the library and I grew a passion to read and write. It was also very […]
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I refuse to stress myself, especially with all that I have been through this year. Holidays are supposed to be for enjoyment. You should not be stressed. Holidays are mainly meant for reflection, cheer, family and memories. With the pandemic taking lives, bringing changes to routine and the economy. The primary focus should be the […]
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My music selection was Toni Braxton. Matter of fact, it was her latest featuring HER called “Gotta Move On”. How befitting to how I felt. I had cut off a man who I was on the verge of being in love with last week. He was an emotional liability. To be all the way honest, […]
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So, I know I joke on my social media platforms about my go to when surviving motherhood: wine. But wait, in all seriousness, there is so much more. Mom life will make you go through many trial and error lessons before you finally find a groove. Even then, situations are subject to change and then […]
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Hey Fam, It has been a minute. I can’t lie I have been so occupied. I have been working, assisting my children with virtual learning, dog training and trying to maintain some type of social life. I hope you all have been well. I wanted to take some time out today to give you some […]
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Hey it’s Tahnee Cole. Let’s keep it fun today. I want to share answers to a few questions I have got over the years. Enjoy!! One word to describe motherhood? Courage. The last piece advice you gave a mom? Be prepared to be flexible, but stand your ground. Favorite thing to do with your kids? […]
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It’s unfortunate that coparenting is not always a happy time, regardless of the effort you put in. It is also very unfortunate that the mental well-being of a child can be severely impacted when there is a parent or parents that refuses to work cooperatively because of bitterness, animosity or simply just personal issues. The […]
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I’m sitting in this Zoom meeting under the covers. For a minute the covers felt like an escape, as if they were sheltering me from something. I could hear my kids voices raising again and Apollo barking at the neighbors outside. I was going to yell and say for the hundredth time I was in […]
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Parenting is hard. Not only do you experiences changes in yourself, but you also have to deal with the changes within your children. One minute they are babies hanging on you boob, the next they are preteens going through puberty, acne, and those dreaded mood swings. Self care is protecting your energy. We never think […]
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Some days I obsess about how I am going to work through my work at home days. But lately, I have taken a moment to think about my kids and what they are going through. It was all fun in the beginning, staying home and not going to school. Summer breaks are fun and kids […]
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It’s nothing new to me. I mean at one point I was getting together with one of my best college buddies for cocktails. Happy hour was the best thing to do, but that was after making arrangements for who would pick up or watch the kids, trying to sneak in quickies and getting stuck at […]
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Yes, I am also a girl mom and honey, when I say I struggle with finding my baby girl summer clothes, that is an understatement. I usually end up buying her a bunch of summer dresses, joggers, and biker leggings to wear under long tank tops. Her style is still girly and cute, she isn’t […]
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I’m not going to lie… I have always felt that WAHM (work at home moms) and SAHM (stay at home moms), had it EASIER than moms who actually had to work outside of the home. Not easy, but EASIER. Yes, there are definitely perks to not having to commute and being with your children all […]
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A lot of people look at the career mom as a Super- heroine. A lot of people make me laugh with their misconceptions and small mindedness. ` Many women are working outside of the home nowadays and maintaining lucrative careers. Women are breadwinners and for many that is admirable. Women of today are being praised […]
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“Have a kid” they said… “Get a puppy” they said… I’m joking! I love my little family, but I will say the family dynamic has changed since we added our little PUPPY Apollo to our clan. Yes, he is a great little addition. All sweet and cuddly, but he Demands ATTENTION! I forgot how much […]
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As I sit here and sip my tea, I think about what so many Mommy Bloggers contribute to my life. I am so inspired by this era of women. I am so proud of especially black moms, who are branching out and sharing their unique motherhood journey. Whenever I go to THE MOM IN ME […]
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So I know if you are a working/career mom you may be in a bit of a frenzy. It is already a lot preparing for Spring break, Summer Break and unexpected days off here and there. Yet, 3 whole weeks is a different battle! Honey, parents all over the world are like, “WHAT IN THE […]
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Remember the bitter baby mama, yeah that’s what you called her. You first saw her in the grocery store, right? She was standing there yelling at her kids, using all types of profanity. “Don’t touch a motha…” Is how she started her first sentence. Telling her three kids to keep their hands to themselves. She […]
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Dealing with post relationship trauma is not easy. Especially, when a child or children are involved. However, you can still manage to have a productive and healthy co-parenting relationship and happy life. On a road to recovery there are things that you must do on a consistent basis to make sure that you are being […]
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Her eyes were red as my Ruby Woo lipstick. She got in the car and didn’t even speak. I didn’t take it personal though. I knew why she was angry and I felt her. I kept telling her she needed a holistic detox (I will speak on that later), but she was too concerned about […]
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Let me tell you the double standard… I was talking to some coworkers about a story on the news. A dad was so stressed out that he came home killed his children and himself. As we discussed how sad it was a few of my co-workers started bashing the mother. What type of mom let […]
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Lately, I have been entertaining the thought of having a final baby. Only because I have started to really consider a friendship turned into a relationship and possibly marriage is the next discussion. But, the thought of having a baby after 30 is scary to me, especially since I am 34.. How could I not […]
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Hey Mamas, I started therapy a year ago. In secret. I didn’t want my family to judge me. I didn’t grow up on therapy, I grew up on prayer. To be honest, it was surface level at first. I didn’t truly want to step out of my comfort zone because, “I’m strong”. As a matter […]
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A mom friend and I had a discussion about moms vs the workplace… We both agreed that we realized how difficult working mom life can be once our children hit school age. For many career moms, it appears to be more difficult when your child is an infant. First, there is the separation anxiety. At […]
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Hello, I am committed to working on all the projects that will keep my mom tribe engaged and encouraged. Every season I will be uploading a seasonal newsletter. My last newsletter was for the Fall Season. If you enjoyed that edition, please check out my Winter edition. Download it and read it whenever you want. […]
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If you are looking for last minute ideas for a tween girl like mine, here are 10 gifts she will probably love. This is not all tweens, but girls who are like my baby girl Heaven! Nails/ Nail polish- My daughter has quite a nail collection. She enjoys doing her friends nails for some pocket […]
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Tis the Season to be jolly, busy AF, overwhelmed, happy, depressed, broke, etc… Listen Mamas, life does NOT have to be the exact same, year after year. You have to find ways to make things better. Life is about learning what works and doing it. As I get older, I am learning to find ways to […]
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Usually, I never feel out of place because I don’t compare myself to others. However, I felt really weird after having a conversation with a group of moms at our kids reading time. One mom in particular. We were all at a round table, drinking coffee and peeking in at our children to make sure […]
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The picture of my son in 2018 wearing his Superman costume inspired this post. He looks so strong, confident and majestic. He truly believes that he can do anything. Which is why daily, I find myself having to convince him not to jump down the flight of stairs. But, I don’t want that confidence to disappear. […]
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Hey, I’m a black mom and I’m extra AF (as f*ck), if you aren’t familiar with the acronym. LOL Excuse my French, but there is no better way to describe my parenting style when it comes to trying to prove a point to my kids. When my kids leave the house during the Fall and Winter […]
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Everything is picture perfect now. You get on social media and the portrayal of a perfect life is the new norm. The influencers at times, can influence people to live a lie or contribute to insecurities. Insecurities about fantasies. A spotless home (usually a mansion), a perfect faithful husband, perfect well-manner kids and my favorite: Perfect […]
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There is such a strong stigma that comes with being a mom. So many expectations, so many requirements. Most of the time, we feel damned if we do, damned if we do not. One of the most common criticisms I have received is that since I am a mom, I can no longer be viewed […]
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Every mom and dad needs a Village. They say it takes a village to raise a child. There will come a point when you can no longer do everything yourself. Your advice will no longer be enough. You will need someone to pick up the kids when you are unable to. God forbid you fall […]
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So I’m going to be honest, not many people will take me serious when I say that I often suffer from body issues. If you return to a small frame after having a baby, most people say you have great snapback. Or whatever you want to call your body returning to its similar pre-baby shape. Most moms are aware […]
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Fall is probably my favorite Season. Not only is Fall a great time to dress in cozy fashionable sweaters, the temperature is still comfortable enough to go outside. We kicked off the weekend going to our Neighborhood Fall Festival that we attend every year with my mom. The Festival usually starts with me taking the […]
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If you are like me, picking a preschool for my son was not easy. Especially transitioning from a private home Provider who cared for him since he was eight months. I had looked into other facilities and I was just not satisfied. Plus, making sure that one fit my budget was also very important. It […]
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Good Morning, There is no Blog post today! I am attaching my Fall/ Autumn Edition Newsletter for you to check out. Read it, download it and share it. Let me know if you like it. This is the second time I have created a newsletter and I want to continue this seasonal newsletter. So get out your […]
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You want to succeed. You want to do better, but you are unsure how… Well, you are a brand! You represent yourself! If you do not make yourself look good, no one else will. Here are my tips on how I made myself more marketable when I was looking for a career, and what I […]
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They say a child shall lead the way. My children always bring a different perspective to my daily thoughts. How they look at the world is so innocent and so pure. How they process rejection and hurt can be so beautiful. At this point, I am tainted from life’s harsh cruelties, so it is scary to […]
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Aside, from having someone to help you do stuff or having someone to spend time with. It is important that your children can witness a healthy relationship. A relationship with love and respect. Too many people have zero examples on how to coexist with a romantic partner. Or, they have only been exposed to negative […]
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