6 FALL FAMILY FAVORITES

I love the Fall season! I was born in November so maybe that has a lot to do with my love for the season.  There is something about the beautiful change in the leaves and the warmth feelings of Fall. I love the flavorful scents and the cozy feeling when the Fall season rolls around. I love to do many things during the fall season, but here are 6 of my absolute favorites.

1.Visit a Farm and a Festival– Our top farm choices are Hales and Patterson’s Farm. Each offer unique fun. Visiting a farm in the fall provides the children a chance to understand farm life. They are able to see the life of the animals and understand what the Farmers do to prepare for the colder climate seasons.  Then we attend our neighbor Fall festival where the children pick pumpkins, go on hayrides and do art and crafts geared to the Fall Season.

2.Making Caramel Apples– I have been monitoring the kids sugar intake so that they can have healthy pearly whites; however, we always make an exception and make our delicious caramel apples.  We will have a video up soon of our caramel apple fun. Plus an apple a day keeps the doctor away! LOL

3.Take pictures in leaves- Everyone knows I am big at taking pictures. Especially to show my children’s growth and also to captures special moments. There is something so beautiful and childlike seeing my kids stand in a pile of leaves. I love the colors and I love the beauty captured in the photo whether professional or casual.

4.Go to a Football Game- Yes, it is football season which is my second favorite sport to Boxing. The children and I have attended about three local football games in the neighborhood. We get wrapped up in blankets with snacks and watch the boys play while the band marches and the cheerleaders cheer. We usually catch the Friday games because it is an awesome way to end a week!

5.Change the homes Fragrances- I am the first to admit that as soon as the fall season hits I change my home big time. I bring out the heavier brown, crème and orange colored throws for the couch. Then I bring out all of my fall scented candles, Pumpkin Spice, salted caramel, mocha, caramel apple, etc. Then I change all of my summer flowers into my fall leaves and deep orange faux flowers. I feel like changing the scents brings the fall essence alive.

6.Read Fall Books By the Fireplace-  Lastly, the kids and I are bookworms. We go to the library weekly and Barnes & Nobles. We also buy books according to the season. So during the Fall season we check out scary Halloween books and books about the Fall season. We usually cuddle up with a blanket in front of the fireplace with a good snack and read until the sun goes down.

What do you like to do during the Fall/Autumn season?

Your Self Worth and Your Success

As a mom leader SELF WORTH is one of my main focus. I truly believe that the more you value yourself the more successful you will become. Not only will you attain, but you will sustain your success. You will be unstoppable! People with high self worth value their time.  They prioritize and organize their days.  People with high self worth focus on spending time on their gifts and developing their purpose.

As a Mom Leader Navigating the Workforce having a POOR Self Worth Affects these areas:

Work Performance– When you do not take pride in who you are you will not take pride in your work. When you lose ambition sometimes it shows in your work area appearance and how you present yourself. It will also show in the quality of work that you do. Once you realize that everything that you do represents you and your brand you will make more of an effort to always present yourself accordingly.

Reputation -Hanging with the crabs in the bucket. The gossipers, the complainers, the Debbie Downers and Donald Don’t Do’s will all be apart of your Great fall. They are the people who encourage you to always see the glass half empty. They spend time complaining about the success of others. They tell you that you should do less and support you only when you speak negatively about the company that you represent. Yes, the company you represent. Even if you do not agree with something keep it to yourself and refrain from using the coffee room for gossip hour. Save your complaints for your superiors who can make changes. Do not get caught up talking bad with these people. They are the same people who will talk about you when you began to elevate to higher levels.

Presence: If your self worth is low it will show in how you present yourself.

  1. Meetings- Are you afraid to speak at meetings? Are you unsure of yourself and want to hide under a rock? Or are you just not interested? Once you improve your self worth you will have no problem voicing your opinion and being a part of the group.
  2. Salary- Do you believe your are valuable enough to receive a significant pay increase? Do you believe that your quality of work is great enough to receive a higher compensation?  Are you confident in approaching your manager in a professional way about your compensation? Once you know you value you will have no problem negotiating your salary.

 Advancement– Are you confident in yourself enough to step out and go after the career you want in your corporation? Are you confident enough to ask for helping building a career path with your Supervisor?  Are you confident in seeking employment outside of the company your work for? All of these questions will come as you increase your self worth and understand that you have the power to create the life you desire by understanding how valuable you are.

As a Mom Leader creating your own Business A POOR Self Worth affects these areas:

FAITH– If you have poor self worth chances are you will not believe in yourself enough to start working on the goals you desire to achieve. People with poor self image will constantly make excuses and talk themselves out of making things happen. They will always look at the negative rather than the positive rewards that could come from them believing in their vision.

RISK– If you do not believe you will not take the risk involved in making your dreams come alive. Many people with poor self worth will not invest in themselves or even get started. They will use the excuse of waiting for the perfect time to prolong taking the risk. Another year goes by and the perfect time will never arrive.

Branding–  One you have a positive self image and respect your self worth you be cleaning up your image and working on self development. You will not still hang around people who will bring you vision down. You will be mindful of how you look in person and on social media. You will only participate in activities and association that will bring positivity to your purpose.

Price– There are people who start their business and still do not think they are valuable enough to charge what they deserve for their products, services and ideas. Many people go in thinking that they have to start small to attract bigger, but it is the total opposite. If you start way too small it is harder charging more as time goes by. If you want to have a business that sells high-end products or services you have to appeal to clients and customers who only purchase high-end. Stop second guessing and doubting yourself.

Elevate your self worth and elevate your life!

 

-Tahnee L. Cole

 

 

 

1 + 1 = 2 (The Second Time Around)

I was very concerned when I found out I was having a second child. I was not prepared mentally. For years I always said one was enough, but deep in my heart I desired more. The main fear was that I would have a child and not be prepared. For some reason we always think that there is a “perfect time” to conceive a child. Yes there are some conditions that are more favorable than others, but honestly there is never a perfect time.  Financially, I was able to sustain myself, but I was still unmarried and trying to pursue my accounting career in corporate America. However, I welcomed the idea of having my son and honestly I am glad I did. My life has changed totally and it has had ups and downs. Yet, I can definitely say that there is increased joy from being a mom of two. There are many things I noticed from being a mom of two.

First of all, I have been able to do it over! Sorry, Heaven! Yes, the mistakes that I made with my daughter I am able to rectify with my son. The gummy snacks that she got away with that gave her a cavity is now a learning lesson for me not to do with my son.  I even started saving more money for both of their future rather than buying too many toys for Christmas. I became more serious about my health and teaching them both healthier eating habits. Being a second time parent usually allows you to redo anything you did wrong the first time.

Secondly, I have toned down the unnecessary spending. Even though I have more to buy I am not as clueless on what I really need. Honestly, I do spend a lot of money on my children, but I have learned how to buy quality over quantity.  I am a millennial mom so I have mastered spending on things that will not only bring entertainment but also education.

Another joy of being a mom of two is that I receive more love! I have two people to call me mommy and two people who want to cuddle. I have two people who are rooting for me to win in life and two more reasons why I have to fight hard to be the best I can be.

One of my most beneficial perks is that they are playmates. I worried that since my children had an age gap that they would not relate, but my children are best friends. My daughter is 9, but she still has an imagination and loves to play with dolls and toys. She isn’t a 9 year old who wants to put on makeup and act like an adult. Thank GOD!!! So my two year old son and her can actually play and I can get things done.

I have also noticed that my son has learned faster from having an older sibling. My daughter has been reading to my son since he was a baby. She is always willing to assist me whenever I am teaching Jr. something new. My son always seems to be more eager to learn after watching his big sister.

Also, now as a mom of two I have two different unique perspectives on life. Gone are the days that I lived by Girls rule and boys drool LOL!  I get to play Princess tea parties with my daughter and then I get to sit and watch sports with my son. Actually my daughter loves sports too, but overall I am able to explore the beautiful differences between the genders.

Lastly, I have learned from being a mom of two that I am not totally dumb. Hooray, I actually learned something!  Being a parent is still a learning process daily. However, that 50 million calls I made to the doctor when my daughter was born has decreased to 1 million. Seriously, I have learned not to obsess over the little things and laugh at the madness all because this is my second time around!

 

 

 

3 Reasons Why Being A Successful Career Driven Mom is Awesome!

I am an advocate for moms pursuing the career of their choice. I think that it is possible with the right life strategies to be a dedicated mom and maintain your career goals. Most moms think that it is too challenging to balance work and home successfully.  However, more moms are out in the workforce and taking control of their lives.  Here are my top three reason why I think it is awesome to be a Career Mom!

  1. Your personal identityI think being a mom is great, but we all have something we can contribute outside of our domestic life. Having a career can help increase your self worth. Once you realize that your capabilities extend beyond and accentuate your motherhood you will be unstoppable.
  2.  You are the Blueprint for your children Children mimic what they see. If mommy is ambitious and goal oriented her children will more than likely follow. Remember our children follow more what we do than what we say.
  3.  You can afford More– I know money is not everything; however, with more money we can afford those luxury vacations, those extra-curricular activities and that bigger home. More money definitely means more opportunities.

I have had many challenges from trying to balance my career and being a mom. I realized that I had to make adjustments. I had to take control of my life and follow my purpose. Once you have the flexibility to raise your children and do what you enjoy, your life will be more meaningful. There is nothing better than being able to explore the perks of being a well-rounded mom.

How has being a Career Mom positively impacted your life?

BREATHE, BE HUMBLE, SIT DOWN…

Some days you just have to sit down and rest. Some days you have to realize that your mind, body and soul needs rest. Have you ever heard that there are answers in silence? That is the importance of meditation.  I have been meditating heavily for the last few weeks.

As a mom I feel like I am always doing something. I am either rocking someone to sleep, cleaning up, packing lunches, helping with homework or driving somewhere.  I am always constantly on the move, but eventually my body will let me know if I am doing too much. Lately, I have been wanting to get up and do everything I feel like I slacked on during the summer, but I still have to realize I am only one person.  I got a rude awakening when I was cleaning too much and tumbled down a flight of stairs. Luckily, I did not break anything and I was fine, but there was a lesson in this. The lesson was to sit my ass down and not to clean in stilettos!

When you feel like you are getting overwhelmed it is ok to sit down.

Remember to drink plenty of water, meditate, exercise, eat healthy and balance your activities!

 

Love and Peace

From Tahnee L. Cole

No Perfect Mom

I am not perfect. My children eat fruits and sweets. No they don’t eat cake for breakfast, but sometimes we eat Pop-tarts when we are in a hurry. I get angry. I cry. I yell. I lose my patience and sometimes I have to count to ten. I say sorry and I start over again. I breastfed two children so my boobs aren’t as perky as they used to be and some days I am just tired.  I get stressed trying to balance work and being a good mom. I beat myself up, but then I praise myself. I get annoyed when the kids come in the bathroom with me, but when they are away the silence drives me crazy. I get territorial and I wish I could keep my babies with me every second of the day. I fear them not living their dreams and sometimes I fear things I simply have no control of. My family is not picture perfect. I am a unmarried mom. My kids are 8 years apart resulting from two seperate relationships. I am an educated woman, but Im still learning. Everyday is a learning lesson. I am constantly on a quest to be a better mom and improving my life. I am just like you!

10 things I adore about my toddler!

Since the majority of my summer was spent vacationing with the kiddies; I did not make a blog post dedicated to Juniors bday. However my son is two now and his personality is totally evolving. He is my little charming, handsome and intelligent social butterfly.  Here are 10 things I have noticed about him that I totally adore.

  1. He has a favorite YouTube Guru: Ryan from Ryan’s Toy Review.
  2. His bestfriend is his big sister (my daughter) lol!
  3. His favorite things to do with his dad is play basketball and watch movies.
  4. He loves French fries.
  5. Our favorite book to read is : When David gets in by David Shannon.
  6. He loves the computer. He goes to early start computer classes on Wednesdays!
  7. He loves being out and socializing but he still prefers being home relaxing.
  8. He loves the color orange.
  9. He is very compassionate and will hug anyone who cries.
  10. He is a Mamas Boy!