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I am attaching my Fall/ Autumn Edition Newsletter for you to check out.

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This is the second time I have created a newsletter and I want to continue this seasonal newsletter.

So get out your coffee, tea, or whatever you like Mamas and enjoy some short news from your girl!

Nothing too juicy this edition, I didn’t want to scare my new readers away, LOL.

But beware they will grow to be more in depth and transparent.

I tend to save the juicy and deep stuff for the blog, but if you are here for it all.

Stay tuned….

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Fall Ed. Newsletter Sep-Nov 2019 BPPS

 

Moms, I am an advocate for stepping up your professional brand.

You want to succeed. You want to do better, but you are unsure how…

Well, you are a brand!

You represent yourself!

If you do not make yourself look good, no one else will.

Here are my tips on how I made myself more marketable when I was looking for a career,  and what I am continuing to do to move up in my career.

Here are my 5 tips below…

  1. Take a Professional headshot– I always like a current picture of myself. In the past, I would always use my family photographers for my headshots. Yet, this time I was able to take photos at my current job. We got the awesome opportunity to take professional headshots for free. Winning! You have to realize that most recruiters are looking for a clear headshot with a friendly face, dressed like a Professional. Obviously, your photo depends on your career choice. Just make sure your photo is pertinent to the type of career that you want to obtain.
  2. Update your resume and social media-I always keep my resume current making sure to focus on my individual accomplishments that made me an asset to each company I have worked for. I stay away from listing the duties of each job. I also make sure that it is current and not listing every job I have ever had. I am mid-level in my career so I don’t need to list my teenage jobs.  It is not necessary.
  3.  A New email– Unfortunately, my email is always full. So periodically, I will change emails during my job search seasons. It is easy to miss out on opportunities when your email is too full. If you choose to do this, make sure that you add the email to your current resume, business cards and professional social networks.
  4. Business Cards– People only think business cards are for Business owners.  Yet, it is helpful to have a professional card with your information. It should list your job title, and any professional information you may want a Recruiter to know. I have a separate business card for my blogging business. However, I have a professional card with my information on my Accounting background on the Corporate level. Just in case I am looking for a new career and I run into a Recruiter.
  5.  Networking Events–  You have to get yourself out there. So far this month, I have two networking events coming up this month. One wine social for Accountants and a Meet & Greet for local Bloggers. It is important to be get to know others in your current or desired field. It is the only way you will find out about great opportunities. So the people that you need can recognize your face, talent and personality.

I hope these tips help you! Good Luck…

 

Tahnee Cole

“The Mommy Motivator”

My baby boy changed my perspective. Here is how.

They say a child shall lead the way.

My children always bring a different perspective to my daily thoughts.

How they look at the world is so innocent and so pure.  How they process rejection and hurt can be so beautiful.

At this point, I am tainted from life’s harsh cruelties, so it is scary to think that their beautiful minds will change one day.

To be more like, mine.

Well, my son made me think about my cry baby ways and totally adjusted my mindset.

I will never forget this day. It was last year. My son had just turned 3.

And when I say he is an old soul, that might be an understatement.

Honestly, when I say how smart my son is, people probably think I am exaggerating until you meet him. But, he is truly brilliant.

Like normal,  I had picked him up from his babysitter and he asked me how my day was.

I tried to brush him off because it was a horrible, frustrating day and I did not want to overshadow his day. He seemed to be in a good mood, but he would not let me rush him off that fast.

He smiled, “Mommy, how was your day? My day was good. Did you have a good day?”

“No, I had an awful day Lj. It was just awful.” I said reliving my frustrations from earlier.

“Why, what happened to you?” he said so innocently.

“Well Lj, to make a long story short, I was upset today.  I had my day at work planned out, but my Supervisor needed me to send out some emergency letters. Which is something I do not normally do. It took a ton of time setting up and sending them out. I spent all morning working on this project.” I said irritated.

I turned around and looked at Lj in his carseat at the light. For some reason, I didn’t expect him to even understand why I was upset.

He looked at me.

“Mommy, did you get it all done? he asked.

“Yes”! I answered.

“Good job mommy, don’t worry about the rest” he said looking at me seriously.

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When I say, that spoke volumes and shut me up!

It taught me to stop worrying about things that were already complete and to move on.

Have your child/children ever taught you something?

And here I am thinking I’m the mom with all the wisdom.

Not at all.

Not at all.

 

From a mom learning from her kids…

Tahnee Cole

Moms, having a healthy romantic relationship is great.

Aside, from having someone to help you do stuff or having someone to spend time with.

It is important that your children can witness a healthy relationship.

A relationship with love and respect.

Too many people have zero examples on how to coexist with a romantic partner.

Or, they have only been exposed to negative examples.

Better yet, they have watched and absorb the thoughts of their bitter toxic parent or both, bickering about their past lovers.

Constantly, listening to them ramble about how they are done with relationships.

So quite naturally it will be hard to find your place; as well as, process how you feel when it comes to loving someone.

It is extremely important for my kids to see me love and treat a man with respect and in return be showed love and admiration.

I want them to understand that companionship is normal and vital to having a happy life.

I encourage all moms, more specifically single moms to invest your time into establishing a social and romantic life.

Your children will grow older and move away, are you going to just become a cat lady?
From a mom who is loving, love right now.

Tahnee cole

My Tweenager…

My baby is almost 12 and I can’t believe it. Where the hell is the time going and can someone slow it down, just a little?

I am thrilled to see her grow and excited to witness her personality evolve. We are best friends and shopping buddies. Same time, I miss my little baby girl, and I think about how me sending her off to college is less than ten years away.

OMG…

Well, since she is getting older, I have been letting my guards down a little and letting her experiment with some styles that she likes. As long as, they don’t make her look as old as me. I am ok with her tapping into her Justice, Vsco girl, fancy chic and unicorn lifestyle.

It is funny because I have always looked at colored hair to be goofy looking.  Who walks around with pink or blue hair besides Nicki Minaj and Lil Kim? I’m a little embarrassed to say that I often looked down upon women who would wear colored wigs or weaves. Thinking they were attention seeking women who would never be taken seriously. So when my daughter started wanting to add colored hair to her braids, I was very skeptical.

Now here’s the thing, I am very fashionable. I switch up my hair often and I love clothes. Yet, there was something about color that made me feel very uncomfortable. I’m not referring to natural colors such as: blonde or red. I’m talking blue, turquoise, purple and pink.

Well, I decided to put my old ways away and stop being a boring bitch. I wanted to step out of my box. I started thinking about how telling my daughter that she had to wear her hair a certain way and not express herself was contradicting my daily advice. This was going against everything I had taught her about being an individual and secure with herself.

I always tell her to be confident in who she wants to be despite what others think, and here I was being judgemental over a few pieces of hair.  All because of me worrying about the misconceptions and judgements of others. Black girls are always ridiculed about their hair no matter how it is styled. We have even been programmed to believe that some of our fashion trends and expressions of style are “ghetto”. Meanwhile, other races mimic the same trends and are recognized as fashionable and trendy.

So I am releasing my old views and embracing some of the changes. Knowing that this is just a phase. A phase no different than my childhood phases. I had to remember I was her age once. I like what I liked and I was still a great student and indivudial.

As long as she is being respectful. I am ok with her doing the things that she likes. In moderation…

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The above photo is of Heaven wearing jumbo twist done by me. A protective style that last about two weeks. This time I added purple hair.

Compromise or Keep it Moving?

The man you love does not have children and desires to start a family but…

You are unsure if you want anymore.

That is a huge issue for single parents starting over. To the point where you may even break up and take some space to figure things out.

Having children is a huge commitment. And even more scary when you have children and the previous situation(s) did not work out.

I’m starting to think less and less about compromise and focusing on what makes me happy. We can compromise and then if things go wrong end up feeling miserable. I have always been the one in the relationship to try to compromise due to my love and loyalty. I hate to say it, I often regret it.

I think when you are equally yoked with someone there will be a like-minded chemistry, no power struggles and you will want the same things.

But I don’t know…

Maybe that’s just me.  Have my single moms ever struggled with this?  Have you broke it off with a man because you knew he wanted children?

Tahnee Cole

”The Mommy Motivator”