5 WAYS TO AVOID CO-PARENTING DRAMA

Being a single parent has many challenges, but so does co-parenting. Co-parenting takes a large amount of maturity on both ends. It takes more teamwork than some parents actually want to engage in. I disagree when they say co-parenting is all about the child and that you have to immerse your feelings in the child’s needs. Yes,…

Sis, I’m Good, We’re Good…

We have all become a bunch of Peeping Toms these days.  It is normal for an average person to scroll down their Instagram before they wash their own butt. Matter of fact, social media has damn near replaced the News. As soon as, a celebrity dies, I see RIP post going down the Facebook thread, that usually…

I talked to A Mom Exotic Dancer…

Harsh judgement came off the tongues from mostly moms. I asked a group of moms what they thought about Stripper Moms. I got a few eye rolls. I was surprised too because most moms understand the struggles that come with providing for kids. Especially single moms and especially when you have more than one child….

#MOMGOALS with Tahnee Cole: Chynita Kirkman

I know this beautiful mom personally, but I never knew she was struggling with anxiety. It is funny how we know people by face, but we do not know their struggle or their journey. Because of that, we are sometimes judgemental of one another. Not on this platform. My blog is to uplift, inspire and…

A Different Approach

As I type this post I am shaking… I am not a scary person. I trust my abilities and I have faith in myself. I like to think of myself as brave. Yet, when it comes to my children there are times that I lose complete confidence in myself. I have fears that are beyond my…

#MOMGOALS with Tahnee Cole

Every so often, I will dedicate a post to a significant professional mom who is setting and smashing goals.  I decided to jumpstart this week off with me. I am Tahnee Cole, the founder and blogger of Black Pumps Pink Slippers. I dedicate this blog platform to build a community for all my career driven moms across the world. A little…

Tahnee’s Thoughts: Satisfied?

I was romantically involved with a man who questioned would I ever be satisfied.   He would joke about my lack of contentment. Saying that no matter what goals I smashed, or new endeavors I engaged in I wanted more. Leading him to believe that I will also grow tired of our relationship. He made these…

A Birthday Letter to Me…

Dear Tahnee, I want to apologize to you for ever doubting you. I want to say sorry for abusing your body. I apologize for the part I played, helping you engage in mindless intimate connections to recover from pain from your ex (exes). I want to say sorry for the days I starved you, over-working you for a company who could…

THE GET UP

I know how it feels to feel overwhelmed, distressed, depressed and confused. Where the hell is my happily ever after? My Prince Charming?  Where is my good Karma? It seems like I have done good by folk and I can’t even find a good companion to save my life. All the hours I wasted listening…

#GOALS

If you follow me on Instagram at blackpumpspinkslippers you will see that I post #MomConfessions and #MomGoals daily on my page. While #MomConfessions are humorous little nuggets of hidden mom truths. #MomGoals are my desires to help my children attain success and happiness. One of my #MomGoals is to teach my children that generational curses is just…

Millennial Moms Think Different

I am not afraid of winning or losing anymore. Probably because nine times out of ten I am winning, and the things that are gone are no longer beneficial to me. I have replaced them with better. My mind has changed and my energy has changed. I represent the Millennial Mom who teaches her children a totally…

Perfectionist or Procrastinator?

I use to tell myself I am a Perfectionist. However, I realized that was just an excuse when I was not progressing. It had to be perfect before I presented it. One more month. One more course. One more detail. One more proofread. The months would roll around and then I would watch someone launch my idea….

MOMS AND ANXIETY

The “Mommy Industry” or should I say the “Millennial Mommy Industry” has done great things for moms all over the globe. We are taught how to look perfect on Instagram with the glamorous makeup tutorials. The perfect moms get together and make videos on how to get our bodies to snap back seconds after labor (even those…

Mom-ing After All That…

I felt extremely overwhelmed. It seemed like disappointment on top of disappointment. How in the hell did I make that mistake? I had been working on this project all week. I had ran the numbers and even looked at my goal board on my cubicle wall. It was great at reminding me of everything I…

Happy Birthday!!!

My son is 3 today! I am so grateful to be his mom. He came into my life and gave me the passion to follow my dreams in a totally different way. He gave me the passion to pursue my entrepreneurial spirit. I had an extremely rough pregnancy with morning “all day” sickness for months,…

Motherhood or Success?

A lot of moms don’t want to talk about this. Either it is too cliché or too touchy. The demands on the mom who wants to have a successful career is REAL. The judgments are excruciating and the work that has to be put in is exhausting. We all know that parenting is not easy…

“It’s ok, Mama”

“Heaven, we don’t have time today.” I said as I pointed to either toast or a Pop-tart. My morning had started off crazy already. My alarm clock was on mute and I was about 10 minutes thrown off my schedule. It was by the Grace of God that my 2 year old woke up crying needing cuddles…

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!

I have never been the type of person to give up. However, my ambition, perseverance, and desire to be successful has increased. I  attribute that to my children. They are the faces I see at the end of my tunnel. I imagine them cheering me on like the fans do LeBron James on the court….

NO SEX WITH THE EX

“Some says the ex, makes the sex, spec-tac-ular…” The words of the late Great Notorious BIG always comes to mind when I think of having sex with an ex. It is so easy to go back to the familiar.  Which is one of the main reasons why it is so difficult to break bad habits….

THE TWO’s

Yeah don’t let those sweet faces fool you. Those two. Yeah my two. “Jeremey put that down right now!” “Heaven don’t get an attitude!” “Clean your room!” “No!” “No you can’t have another fruit snack before dinner!” ” I don’t care if you stomp your feet!” “Keep your hands to yourself!” “Dammit!”  “NOOOOOOOOOOO!” Just a…

WORK FRIENDS

Sometimes there is a big funky elephant in the room. Instead of ignoring him, it is better to wash him down or kick his ass out. I am a pretty outgoing person, passive aggressive and known to be reserve when I want.  I always attract a new friend no matter where I go. I am…

THIS IS SO US… (Nothing perfect about this pic) LOL

The fresh aroma of Spring flowers is so refreshing. My children and I are dressed in mint green, white and lavender attire for our seasonal family pictures.  This natural shot says it all! My little family shows that we are not perfect,  but we are perfect for each other. We compliment each other so well. Hey Readers. I missed…

Millennial Moms are Creating Entrepreneurs

I like the sound of it…Millennial Mom! Sounds real new age and savvy. Well that is what they call me. I am a mom born in the early 80’s raising children during the “New Millennium”.  I am a mom who can relate to my children in a unique way. I can shop in a store and online. I can…

BUSINESS PROFESSIONAL STYLED MAMA?

So I was speaking to a mom the other day, a new mom who has never worked in an office.  She worked in retail and recently at a hair care supply store. She asked me exactly what Business Professional was… I gave her the side eye…    Well only because I had never met anyone who NEVER…

IN THE NEWS

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!  I have dropped off copies of my Seasonal Newsletter at local coffee shops, libraries, doctor offices and many places that people may want to look at free literature. So don’t be surprised if you are in Cleveland, OH and see a familiar face! LOL But for all my readers who are…

HAPPY NEW MOM YEAR!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! Hello to all my Readers!!! If you are reading this then it means you made it to 2018.  Last year, I decided to come up with a list of “17 Parent Resolutions” in honor of 2017. However, this year I wanted to focus on a truly new beginning. Beginning the journey of…

12 Days of Blogmas Day 12: Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas!!! Today is the last day of Blogmas and I feel pretty good. I truly enjoyed myself this Holiday season. I have been off with my children almost a whole year and it has been awesome! I do not miss the daily punch in and out or begging for PTO. We did a lot…

12 Days of Blogmas Day 11: Christmas Eve

Hey everyone it is Christmas Eve! Time to make Christmas cookies, finish wrapping gifts, drink hot cocoa, and get ready for Santa. I spoke to Santa and he told me he would be on time this year due to the mild weather. I was glad to hear from the big guy so we will leave…

12 Days of Blogmas Day 9: Fun times for Christmas!

My blog of the day will be a list of things I do with my kids for Christmas. I tried to keep the list short, but so far we have done everything except make our Christmas cookies, but we will save that for Christmas Eve. Comment below some of your ideas that you do with your family during the…

12 Days of Blogmas Day 8: Help Around the Holidays

As a busy mom, I know how it feels to be exhausted and overwhelmed around the Holidays. Honestly, I have learned that the best thing to do is get help. Even paying for help is great. Here are some of my tips to enjoy the Holiday Season and stay organized. RELAX The biggest help you…

12 Days of Blogmas Day 7: Funny Photo of the Day

I did not have much to say today besides the fact that I adore my children. They fight like siblings do, but they are so close. Despite their almost 7 1/2 year gap they are the best of friends. This picture truly captured how much my son loves and admires his sister. I just really…

12 Days of Blogmas Day 6: Motivation in December

So maybe all your plans for 2017 did not happen exactly the way you had planned. You did not reach your desired weight. Your business is not popping like your fellow Instagram Entrepreneurs and you still work at the job that you hate. It is very tempting now to just eat the whole bag of Christmas cookies and…

12 Days of Blogmas Day 4: My Elf on the Shelf Almost Died

It was love at first sight when the kids first met Zippy. He is a very kind Elf, but he has a no nonsense demeanor. Most of all he is quick. He definitely lives us up to his name. Before the kids know it, he is already in a new spot watching their every move. Yet he is helpful. When Heaven misplaced her…

12 Days of Blogmas Day 3: Holiday Duties

I made an error and schedule Day 3 Blog on Day 4. So there will be two blog post today. However, the show must keep going. This is my first year being apart of Blogmas and I am enjoying it all. The good, the crazy and the mistakes! Today I want to talk about Holiday Play…

12 Days of Blogmas Day 2 : Santa Pictures

Today the kids and I went to see Santa. It was a beautiful and sunny day. It was so hot that Santa was sweating in his suit. However, it is always a joyous time seeing St. Nick. I had to calm Jr down because he wanted to be the first to chat with Santa, but…

12 Days of Blogmas Day 1: THE POLAR EXPRESS

This year I am participating in Vlogmas on YouTube, which is 25 days of posting in December. However, I decided to do only 12 days of Blogmas which is every other day in December until Christmas day. Today is December 1, 2017. Today my children and I are going to kick off Dec 1 right. We…

Happy Thanksgiving!

I love Thanksgiving! It is such an enjoyable holiday as I think about the food (specifically my mamas dressing, lol), family and our traditions. I even think about how my daughter was almost born on Thanksgiving in 2007. This year though while preparing for my daughters birthday weekend I had a sudden death occur. My…

A Professional Break Up

Lately, I have been in communication with many mothers who feel like work life balance is non existent, or that there is a lack of advancement opportunities in their current situation. I recently spoke to a mother who asked me advice. “What do you do when you have worked for a corporation for five years and…

It’s My Birthday!

Today is November 13, 2017 and I am 32 years old. There will never be another day like this and I am truly enjoying the change God has brought into my life. Some good changes, some unexpected changes and some huge plot twist. I woke up this morning and I was honest with myself. I decided it…

Teaching Financial Wellness

I have always had a passion for teaching strangers and my family the importance of budgets, investments, financial wellness and ultimately achieving financial freedom. After finally transitioning from a Corporate Accountant to a Financial Advisor, I knew it was time to follow my passion and to specifically target moms like me. However, not only did I want to…

6 FALL FAMILY FAVORITES

I love the Fall season! I was born in November so maybe that has a lot to do with my love for the season.  There is something about the beautiful change in the leaves and the warmth feelings of Fall. I love the flavorful scents and the cozy feeling when the Fall season rolls around. I…

Your Self Worth and Your Success

As a mom leader SELF WORTH is one of my main focus. I truly believe that the more you value yourself the more successful you will become. Not only will you attain, but you will sustain your success. You will be unstoppable! People with high self worth value their time.  They prioritize and organize their…

1 + 1 = 2 (The Second Time Around)

I was very concerned when I found out I was having a second child. I was not prepared mentally. For years I always said one was enough, but deep in my heart I desired more. The main fear was that I would have a child and not be prepared. For some reason we always think that there…

3 Reasons Why Being A Successful Career Driven Mom is Awesome!

I am an advocate for moms pursuing the career of their choice. I think that it is possible with the right life strategies to be a dedicated mom and maintain your career goals. Most moms think that it is too challenging to balance work and home successfully.  However, more moms are out in the workforce and taking…

BREATHE, BE HUMBLE, SIT DOWN…

Some days you just have to sit down and rest. Some days you have to realize that your mind, body and soul needs rest. Have you ever heard that there are answers in silence? That is the importance of meditation.  I have been meditating heavily for the last few weeks. As a mom I feel like…

Happy International Women’s Day

Today, I think of everything I have faced as a woman. Surprisingly, I am far from ashamed of the struggle. Every setback. Every challenge. Every single “NO”. Every single time I was called a bitch. Every single time I was discredited and belittled. I survived. My head still held high. I am resilient. I am…

2 Kids, 1 Job and No Man…

April 3, 2017,  felt like a regular Monday. Well actually it didn’t, I was supposed to be going in late to work due to a dentist appointment. I couldn’t help but notice the constant buzzing of my phone while I was getting dressed.  My co-worker was calling me. Matter of fact, she had called me few times which was unusual…