Hey it’s Tahnee Cole. Let's keep it fun today. I want to share answers to a few questions I have got over the years. Enjoy!! One word to describe motherhood? Courage. The last piece advice you gave a mom? Be prepared to be flexible, but stand your ground. Favorite thing to do with your kids? … Continue reading 10 Questions answered by the Creator!
It’s unfortunate that coparenting is not always a happy time, regardless of the effort you put in. It is also very unfortunate that the mental well-being of a child can be severely impacted when there is a parent or parents that refuses to work cooperatively because of bitterness, animosity or simply just personal issues. The … Continue reading Do you Co-Parent with a Toxic Mom or Dad?
I'm sitting in this Zoom meeting under the covers. For a minute the covers felt like an escape, as if they were sheltering me from something. I could hear my kids voices raising again and Apollo barking at the neighbors outside. I was going to yell and say for the hundredth time I was in … Continue reading Virtual Learning vs Career Mom
Parenting is hard. Not only do you experiences changes in yourself, but you also have to deal with the changes within your children. One minute they are babies hanging on you boob, the next they are preteens going through puberty, acne, and those dreaded mood swings. Self care is protecting your energy. We never think … Continue reading SELF CARE IS… Not Blaming Yourself For Your Child’s Growing Pains.
Some days I obsess about how I am going to work through my work at home days. But lately, I have taken a moment to think about my kids and what they are going through. It was all fun in the beginning, staying home and not going to school. Summer breaks are fun and kids … Continue reading Helping My Kids Cope With Changes
It’s nothing new to me. I mean at one point I was getting together with one of my best college buddies for cocktails. Happy hour was the best thing to do, but that was after making arrangements for who would pick up or watch the kids, trying to sneak in quickies and getting stuck at … Continue reading “Shit, we’ve been social distancing.” -Career Moms
Yes, I am also a girl mom and honey, when I say I struggle with finding my baby girl summer clothes, that is an understatement. I usually end up buying her a bunch of summer dresses, joggers, and biker leggings to wear under long tank tops. Her style is still girly and cute, she isn't … Continue reading Preteen Fashion?
I'm not going to lie... I have always felt that WAHM (work at home moms) and SAHM (stay at home moms), had it EASIER than moms who actually had to work outside of the home. Not easy, but EASIER. Yes, there are definitely perks to not having to commute and being with your children all … Continue reading 7 things I learned being a WAHM (Work At Home Mom) + Homeschooling during the Pandemic
A lot of people look at the career mom as a Super- heroine. A lot of people make me laugh with their misconceptions and small mindedness. ` Many women are working outside of the home nowadays and maintaining lucrative careers. Women are breadwinners and for many that is admirable. Women of today are being praised … Continue reading Stupid Sh*t People Say to Career Moms
"Have a kid" they said... "Get a puppy" they said... I'm joking! I love my little family, but I will say the family dynamic has changed since we added our little PUPPY Apollo to our clan. Yes, he is a great little addition. All sweet and cuddly, but he Demands ATTENTION! I forgot how much … Continue reading A Preteen, A Preschooler, A Puppy & A Pandemic
As I sit here and sip my tea, I think about what so many Mommy Bloggers contribute to my life. I am so inspired by this era of women. I am so proud of especially black moms, who are branching out and sharing their unique motherhood journey. Whenever I go to THE MOM IN ME … Continue reading PEACE, LOVE & MOTHERHOOD
So I know if you are a working/career mom you may be in a bit of a frenzy. It is already a lot preparing for Spring break, Summer Break and unexpected days off here and there. Yet, 3 whole weeks is a different battle! Honey, parents all over the world are like, "WHAT IN THE … Continue reading The Kids Are Off For 3 Weeks…
Remember the bitter baby mama, yeah that’s what you called her. You first saw her in the grocery store, right? She was standing there yelling at her kids, using all types of profanity. “Don’t touch a motha…” Is how she started her first sentence. Telling her three kids to keep their hands to themselves. She … Continue reading The Bitter Baby Mama…
Dealing with post relationship trauma is not easy. Especially, when a child or children are involved. However, you can still manage to have a productive and healthy co-parenting relationship and happy life. On a road to recovery there are things that you must do on a consistent basis to make sure that you are being … Continue reading BABY MAMA SERIES: 7 HABITS TO HEAL
Her eyes were red as my Ruby Woo lipstick. She got in the car and didn't even speak. I didn't take it personal though. I knew why she was angry and I felt her. I kept telling her she needed a holistic detox (I will speak on that later), but she was too concerned about … Continue reading You’re a Bitter Baby Mama, Own it!
Let me tell you the double standard... I was talking to some coworkers about a story on the news. A dad was so stressed out that he came home killed his children and himself. As we discussed how sad it was a few of my co-workers started bashing the mother. What type of mom let … Continue reading THE “BABY MAMA” SERIES: MENTAL HEALTH
Lately, I have been entertaining the thought of having a final baby. Only because I have started to really consider a friendship turned into a relationship and possibly marriage is the next discussion. But, the thought of having a baby after 30 is scary to me, especially since I am 34.. How could I not … Continue reading Pregnant after 30…
Hey Mamas, I started therapy a year ago. In secret. I didn’t want my family to judge me. I didn’t grow up on therapy, I grew up on prayer. To be honest, it was surface level at first. I didn’t truly want to step out of my comfort zone because, “I’m strong”. As a matter … Continue reading F*ck him, how is that for therapy? #parentingwithanincarceratedparent
A mom friend and I had a discussion about moms vs the workplace... We both agreed that we realized how difficult working mom life can be once our children hit school age. For many career moms, it appears to be more difficult when your child is an infant. First, there is the separation anxiety. At … Continue reading They only see you leave early… #WORKINGMOMCHALLENGES
Hello, I am committed to working on all the projects that will keep my mom tribe engaged and encouraged. Every season I will be uploading a seasonal newsletter. My last newsletter was for the Fall Season. If you enjoyed that edition, please check out my Winter edition. Download it and read it whenever you want. … Continue reading HAPPY HOLIDAYS, HAPPY NEW YEAR AND HAPPY WINTER! (WINTER NEWSLETTER ENCLOSED)
If you are looking for last minute ideas for a tween girl like mine, here are 10 gifts she will probably love. This is not all tweens, but girls who are like my baby girl Heaven! Nails/ Nail polish- My daughter has quite a nail collection. She enjoys doing her friends nails for some pocket … Continue reading Last Minute Gift Ideas for a Tween Like Mine…
Tis the Season to be jolly, busy AF, overwhelmed, happy, depressed, broke, etc... Listen Mamas, life does NOT have to be the exact same, year after year. You have to find ways to make things better. Life is about learning what works and doing it. As I get older, I am learning to find ways to … Continue reading Beating the Busy Mom Blues During the Holidays!
Usually, I never feel out of place because I don't compare myself to others. However, I felt really weird after having a conversation with a group of moms at our kids reading time. One mom in particular. We were all at a round table, drinking coffee and peeking in at our children to make sure … Continue reading Being the only black working mom…
The picture of my son in 2018 wearing his Superman costume inspired this post. He looks so strong, confident and majestic. He truly believes that he can do anything. Which is why daily, I find myself having to convince him not to jump down the flight of stairs. But, I don't want that confidence to disappear. … Continue reading Teaching my son there is a Black Superman, he is.
Hey, I'm a black mom and I'm extra AF (as f*ck), if you aren't familiar with the acronym. LOL Excuse my French, but there is no better way to describe my parenting style when it comes to trying to prove a point to my kids. When my kids leave the house during the Fall and Winter … Continue reading “If you leave that damn coat at school, don’t come home!”
Everything is picture perfect now. You get on social media and the portrayal of a perfect life is the new norm. The influencers at times, can influence people to live a lie or contribute to insecurities. Insecurities about fantasies. A spotless home (usually a mansion), a perfect faithful husband, perfect well-manner kids and my favorite: Perfect … Continue reading Let me be candid, and keep it funky about co-parenting.
There is such a strong stigma that comes with being a mom. So many expectations, so many requirements. Most of the time, we feel damned if we do, damned if we do not. One of the most common criticisms I have received is that since I am a mom, I can no longer be viewed … Continue reading And Yes, I’m a Mom…
Every mom and dad needs a Village. They say it takes a village to raise a child. There will come a point when you can no longer do everything yourself. Your advice will no longer be enough. You will need someone to pick up the kids when you are unable to. God forbid you fall … Continue reading Surviving the Village…
So I'm going to be honest, not many people will take me serious when I say that I often suffer from body issues. If you return to a small frame after having a baby, most people say you have great snapback. Or whatever you want to call your body returning to its similar pre-baby shape. Most moms are aware … Continue reading Honest Mom Series: I am allowed to feel this way…
Fall is probably my favorite Season. Not only is Fall a great time to dress in cozy fashionable sweaters, the temperature is still comfortable enough to go outside. We kicked off the weekend going to our Neighborhood Fall Festival that we attend every year with my mom. The Festival usually starts with me taking the … Continue reading Me and My kiddos are kicking off the Fall…
If you are like me, picking a preschool for my son was not easy. Especially transitioning from a private home Provider who cared for him since he was eight months. I had looked into other facilities and I was just not satisfied. Plus, making sure that one fit my budget was also very important. It … Continue reading Jeremey goes to Preschool
Good Morning, There is no Blog post today! I am attaching my Fall/ Autumn Edition Newsletter for you to check out. Read it, download it and share it. Let me know if you like it. This is the second time I have created a newsletter and I want to continue this seasonal newsletter. So get out your … Continue reading HAPPY FALL EVERYONE
You want to succeed. You want to do better, but you are unsure how... Well, you are a brand! You represent yourself! If you do not make yourself look good, no one else will. Here are my tips on how I made myself more marketable when I was looking for a career, and what I … Continue reading Moms, I am an advocate for stepping up your professional brand.
They say a child shall lead the way. My children always bring a different perspective to my daily thoughts. How they look at the world is so innocent and so pure. How they process rejection and hurt can be so beautiful. At this point, I am tainted from life's harsh cruelties, so it is scary to … Continue reading My baby boy changed my perspective. Here is how.
Aside, from having someone to help you do stuff or having someone to spend time with. It is important that your children can witness a healthy relationship. A relationship with love and respect. Too many people have zero examples on how to coexist with a romantic partner. Or, they have only been exposed to negative … Continue reading Moms, having a healthy romantic relationship is great.
My baby is almost 12 and I can't believe it. Where the hell is the time going and can someone slow it down, just a little? I am thrilled to see her grow and excited to witness her personality evolve. We are best friends and shopping buddies. Same time, I miss my little baby girl, and … Continue reading My Tweenager…
The man you love does not have children and desires to start a family but... You are unsure if you want anymore. That is a huge issue for single parents starting over. To the point where you may even break up and take some space to figure things out. Having children is a huge commitment. … Continue reading Compromise or Keep it Moving?
Nobody understands parenthood until they are a parent. All of the demands from not only society, but the internal demands we place on ourselves. We have to be the best. We have to be at every event for our children. We also have to look our best, drink water and have a social life. Bullshit... I … Continue reading You’re Exhausted, Own It!
No Blog would ever be complete without paying homage to a great mom. My mom is the epitome of a great mom. It is quite amazing that just when she wins the great mom award she comes back and wins for best grandmom. She exudes class, strength and selflessness. I often feel guilty for the amount of sacrifices … Continue reading Phenomenal Mom
I’m writing this from my bed. It’s crazy how a few weeks ago I was perfectly fine and today I feel like I’m fighting for my life. I was diagnosed with pneumonia and realize that it is not even close to a common cold. In plain words: this shit sucks. The thought that my son … Continue reading Lessons of Life
Being a career mom can feel rewarding. My children take pride in saying my mommy works here and she does this for a living. I have always wanted to be a mom. I was born to be a mom. However, I also wanted to pursue my personal passions. Such as: obtaining multiple degrees, starting some businesses, writing … Continue reading Working Moms & Guilt…
"Go Jr, Go. Run to the base. No that way. No that way. Yayyy!!" That was the words that you heard out of my month every Tuesday and Thursday all Summer. My baby boy was playing his first sport, T-ball. I was excited from the time we signed him up to the day he got … Continue reading Mommy Life: “Go Jr, Go!”
Yes God, it is that time again! I know parents across the world are celebrating that their refrigerator will now go back to being the same. Besides from being happy the kids are back in school, we now have to prepare for busy school schedules, bus pick-ups, packing lunches, projects, etc. It seems like the … Continue reading Back To School Tips For The Busy Mama
I recently made a vow that I did not want to date again until I accomplished all of my personal goals. I truly feel like every time I come close to accomplishing a huge goal, some gorgeous man comes into my life and gets me a little off track. Now, I’m not saying everything falls apart, but I do … Continue reading Love Again?
Being a single parent has many challenges, but so does co-parenting. Co-parenting takes a large amount of maturity on both ends. It takes more teamwork than some parents actually want to engage in. I disagree when they say co-parenting is all about the child and that you have to immerse your feelings in the child's needs. Yes, … Continue reading 5 WAYS TO AVOID CO-PARENTING DRAMA
We have all become a bunch of Peeping Toms these days. It is normal for an average person to scroll down their Instagram before they wash their own butt. Matter of fact, social media has damn near replaced the News. As soon as, a celebrity dies, I see RIP post going down the Facebook thread, and that … Continue reading Sis, I’m Good, We’re Good…
Harsh judgement came off the tongues from mostly moms. I asked a group of moms what they thought about Stripper Moms. I got a few eye rolls. I was surprised too because most moms understand the struggles that come with providing for kids. Especially single moms and especially when you have more than one child. … Continue reading I talked to A Mom Exotic Dancer…
I know this beautiful mom personally, but I never knew she was struggling with anxiety. It is funny how we know people by face, but we do not know their struggle or their journey. Because of that, we are sometimes judgemental of one another. Not on this platform. My blog is to uplift, inspire and … Continue reading #MOMGOALS with Tahnee Cole: Chynita Kirkman
I have been known to make lemonade out of lemons, but honey I'm going to make frosted lemonade out of lemons this time. I'm talking whipped crème and cherries on top for a hot sunny day. You know why? Because that is what moms do (claps as I say each word)! Anyways, I wanted to … Continue reading Back to School. Well kinda…
I don’t know what was putting me off and out my zone more, the headboard hitting the wall or his loud mouth. Should I stick my panties in his mouth or just be done? “What’s wrong?” He said catching my vibe ”We are getting too loud.” I said in the nicest tone possible. Switching positions … Continue reading The kids are about to wake up…