THE BLOG

10 Questions answered by the Creator!

Hey it’s Tahnee Cole. Let's keep it fun today. I want to share answers to a few questions I have got over the years. Enjoy!! One word to describe motherhood?  Courage.  The last piece advice you gave a mom?  Be prepared to be flexible, but stand your ground.  Favorite thing to do with your kids? … Continue reading 10 Questions answered by the Creator!

Do you Co-Parent with a Toxic Mom or Dad?

It’s unfortunate that coparenting is not always a happy time, regardless of the effort you put in. It is also very unfortunate that the mental well-being of a child can be severely impacted  when there is a parent or parents that refuses to work cooperatively because of bitterness, animosity or simply just personal issues. The … Continue reading Do you Co-Parent with a Toxic Mom or Dad?

SELF CARE IS… Not Blaming Yourself For Your Child’s Growing Pains.

Parenting is hard. Not only do you experiences changes in yourself, but you also have to deal with the changes within your children. One minute they are babies hanging on you boob, the next they are preteens going through puberty, acne, and those dreaded mood swings. Self care is protecting your energy. We never think … Continue reading SELF CARE IS… Not Blaming Yourself For Your Child’s Growing Pains.

Helping My Kids Cope With Changes

Some days I obsess about how I am going to work through my work at home days. But lately, I have taken a moment to think about my kids and what they are going through. It was all fun in the beginning, staying home and not going to school. Summer breaks are fun and kids … Continue reading Helping My Kids Cope With Changes

“Shit, we’ve been social distancing.” -Career Moms

It’s nothing new to me. I mean at one point I was getting together with one of my best college buddies for cocktails. Happy hour was the best thing to do, but that was after making arrangements for who would pick up or watch the kids, trying to sneak in quickies and getting stuck at … Continue reading “Shit, we’ve been social distancing.” -Career Moms

7 things I learned being a WAHM (Work At Home Mom) + Homeschooling during the Pandemic

I'm not going to lie... I have always felt that WAHM (work at home moms) and SAHM (stay at home moms), had it EASIER than moms who actually had to work outside of the home. Not easy, but EASIER. Yes, there are definitely perks to not having to commute and being with your children all … Continue reading 7 things I learned being a WAHM (Work At Home Mom) + Homeschooling during the Pandemic

Stupid Sh*t People Say to Career Moms

A lot of people look at the career mom as a Super- heroine. A lot of people make me laugh with their misconceptions and small mindedness. ` Many women are working outside of the home nowadays and maintaining lucrative careers. Women are breadwinners and for many that is admirable. Women of today are being praised … Continue reading Stupid Sh*t People Say to Career Moms

A Preteen, A Preschooler, A Puppy & A Pandemic

"Have a kid" they said... "Get a puppy" they said... I'm joking!  I love my little family, but I will say the family dynamic has changed since we added our little PUPPY Apollo to our clan. Yes, he is a great little addition. All sweet and cuddly, but he Demands ATTENTION! I forgot how much … Continue reading A Preteen, A Preschooler, A Puppy & A Pandemic

PEACE, LOVE & MOTHERHOOD

As I sit here and sip my tea, I think about what so many Mommy Bloggers contribute to my life. I am so inspired by this era of women. I am so proud of especially black moms, who are branching out and sharing their unique motherhood journey. Whenever I go to THE MOM IN ME … Continue reading PEACE, LOVE & MOTHERHOOD

The Bitter Baby Mama…

Remember the bitter baby mama, yeah that’s what you called her. You first saw her in the grocery store, right? She was standing there yelling at her kids, using all types of profanity. “Don’t touch a motha…” Is how she started her first sentence. Telling her three kids to keep their hands to themselves. She … Continue reading The Bitter Baby Mama…

BABY MAMA SERIES: 7 HABITS TO HEAL

Dealing with post relationship trauma is not easy. Especially, when a child or children are involved. However, you can still manage to have a productive and healthy co-parenting relationship and happy life. On a road to recovery there are things that you must do on a consistent basis to make sure that you are being … Continue reading BABY MAMA SERIES: 7 HABITS TO HEAL

THE “BABY MAMA” SERIES: MENTAL HEALTH

Let me tell you the double standard... I was talking to some coworkers about a story on the news. A dad was so stressed out that he came home killed his children and himself. As we discussed how sad it was a few of my co-workers started bashing the mother. What type of mom let … Continue reading THE “BABY MAMA” SERIES: MENTAL HEALTH

Pregnant after 30…

Lately, I have been entertaining the thought of having a final baby. Only because I have started to really consider a friendship turned into a relationship and possibly marriage is the next discussion. But, the thought of having a baby after 30 is scary to me, especially since I am 34.. How could I not … Continue reading Pregnant after 30…

F*ck him, how is that for therapy? #parentingwithanincarceratedparent

Hey Mamas, I started therapy a year ago. In secret. I didn’t want my family to judge me. I didn’t grow up on therapy, I grew up on prayer. To be honest, it was surface level at first. I didn’t truly want to step out of my comfort zone because, “I’m strong”. As a matter … Continue reading F*ck him, how is that for therapy? #parentingwithanincarceratedparent

They only see you leave early… #WORKINGMOMCHALLENGES

A mom friend and I had a discussion about moms vs the workplace... We both agreed that we realized how difficult working mom life can be once our children hit school age.  For many career moms, it appears to be more difficult when your child is an infant. First, there is the separation anxiety. At … Continue reading They only see you leave early… #WORKINGMOMCHALLENGES

HAPPY HOLIDAYS, HAPPY NEW YEAR AND HAPPY WINTER! (WINTER NEWSLETTER ENCLOSED)

Hello, I am committed to working on all the projects that will keep my mom tribe engaged and encouraged.  Every season I will be uploading a seasonal newsletter. My last newsletter was for the Fall Season. If you enjoyed that edition, please check out my Winter edition. Download it and  read it whenever you want. … Continue reading HAPPY HOLIDAYS, HAPPY NEW YEAR AND HAPPY WINTER! (WINTER NEWSLETTER ENCLOSED)

Last Minute Gift Ideas for a Tween Like Mine…

If you are looking for last minute ideas for a tween girl like mine, here are 10 gifts she will probably love. This is not all tweens, but girls who are like my baby girl Heaven! Nails/ Nail polish- My daughter has quite a nail collection. She enjoys doing her friends nails for some pocket … Continue reading Last Minute Gift Ideas for a Tween Like Mine…

Beating the Busy Mom Blues During the Holidays!

Tis the Season to be jolly, busy AF, overwhelmed, happy, depressed, broke, etc... Listen Mamas, life does NOT have to be the exact same, year after year. You have to find ways to make things better. Life is about learning what works and doing it. As I get older, I am learning to find ways to … Continue reading Beating the Busy Mom Blues During the Holidays!

Being the only black working mom…

Usually, I never feel out of place because I don't compare myself to others. However, I felt really weird after having a conversation with a group of moms at our kids reading time. One mom in particular. We were all at a round table, drinking coffee and peeking in at our children to make sure … Continue reading Being the only black working mom…

Teaching my son there is a Black Superman, he is.

The picture of my son in 2018 wearing his Superman costume inspired this post. He looks so strong, confident and majestic. He truly believes that he can do anything. Which is why daily, I find myself having to convince him not to jump down the flight of stairs. But, I don't want that confidence to disappear. … Continue reading Teaching my son there is a Black Superman, he is.

“If you leave that damn coat at school, don’t come home!”

Hey, I'm a black mom and I'm extra AF (as f*ck), if you aren't familiar with the acronym. LOL Excuse my French, but there is no better way to describe my parenting style when it comes to trying to prove a point to my kids. When my kids leave the house during the Fall and Winter … Continue reading “If you leave that damn coat at school, don’t come home!”

Let me be candid, and keep it funky about co-parenting.

Everything is picture perfect now. You get on social media and the portrayal of a perfect life is the new norm. The influencers at times, can influence people to live a lie or contribute to insecurities. Insecurities about fantasies. A spotless home (usually a mansion), a perfect faithful husband, perfect well-manner kids and my favorite: Perfect … Continue reading Let me be candid, and keep it funky about co-parenting.

And Yes, I’m a Mom…

There is such a strong stigma that comes with being a mom. So many expectations, so many requirements. Most of the time, we feel damned if we do, damned if we do not. One of the most common criticisms I have received is that since I am a mom, I can no longer be viewed … Continue reading And Yes, I’m a Mom…

Surviving the Village…

Every mom and dad needs a Village. They say it takes a village to raise a child. There will come a point when you can no longer do everything yourself. Your advice will no longer be enough. You will need someone to pick up the kids when you are unable to. God forbid you fall … Continue reading Surviving the Village…

Honest Mom Series: I am allowed to feel this way…

So I'm going to be honest, not many people will take me serious when I say that I often suffer from body issues. If you return to a small frame after having a baby, most people say you have great snapback. Or whatever you want to call your body returning to its similar pre-baby shape. Most moms are aware … Continue reading Honest Mom Series: I am allowed to feel this way…

Me and My kiddos are kicking off the Fall…

Fall is probably my favorite Season. Not only is Fall a great time to dress in cozy fashionable sweaters, the temperature is still comfortable enough to go outside. We kicked off the weekend going to our Neighborhood Fall Festival that we attend every year with my mom. The Festival usually starts with me taking the … Continue reading Me and My kiddos are kicking off the Fall…

Moms, I am an advocate for stepping up your professional brand.

You want to succeed. You want to do better, but you are unsure how... Well, you are a brand! You represent yourself! If you do not make yourself look good, no one else will. Here are my tips on how I made myself more marketable when I was looking for a career,  and what I … Continue reading Moms, I am an advocate for stepping up your professional brand.

My baby boy changed my perspective. Here is how.

They say a child shall lead the way. My children always bring a different perspective to my daily thoughts. How they look at the world is so innocent and so pure.  How they process rejection and hurt can be so beautiful. At this point, I am tainted from life's harsh cruelties, so it is scary to … Continue reading My baby boy changed my perspective. Here is how.

Moms, having a healthy romantic relationship is great.

Aside, from having someone to help you do stuff or having someone to spend time with. It is important that your children can witness a healthy relationship. A relationship with love and respect. Too many people have zero examples on how to coexist with a romantic partner. Or, they have only been exposed to negative … Continue reading Moms, having a healthy romantic relationship is great.

Back To School Tips For The Busy Mama

Yes God, it is that time again! I know parents across the world are celebrating that their refrigerator will now go back to being the same. Besides from being happy the kids are back in school, we now have to prepare for busy school schedules, bus pick-ups, packing lunches, projects, etc. It seems like the … Continue reading Back To School Tips For The Busy Mama

5 WAYS TO AVOID CO-PARENTING DRAMA

Being a single parent has many challenges, but so does co-parenting. Co-parenting takes a large amount of maturity on both ends. It takes more teamwork than some parents actually want to engage in. I disagree when they say co-parenting is all about the child and that you have to immerse your feelings in the child's needs. Yes, … Continue reading 5 WAYS TO AVOID CO-PARENTING DRAMA

#MOMGOALS with Tahnee Cole: Chynita Kirkman

I know this beautiful mom personally, but I never knew she was struggling with anxiety. It is funny how we know people by face, but we do not know their struggle or their journey. Because of that, we are sometimes judgemental of one another. Not on this platform. My blog is to uplift, inspire and … Continue reading #MOMGOALS with Tahnee Cole: Chynita Kirkman

Back to School. Well kinda…

I have been known to make lemonade out of lemons, but honey I'm going to make frosted lemonade out of lemons this time. I'm talking whipped crème and cherries on top for a hot sunny day. You know why? Because that is what moms do (claps as I say each word)! Anyways, I wanted to … Continue reading Back to School. Well kinda…